We are mostly stood in three paradoxes:
- When we need something, we think it is an obligation to fend for ourselves,
- Those who wish to help us, our close relations, are too emotionally involved to help us with sufficient objectivity,
- Face our problems, we become vulnerable and in fact the less competent to deal with them.
For this to happen, we need someone neutral and responsible to:
- listen to us,
- advise us,
- help us to find our own solutions.